Desire is an interesting concept to study and be curious about. It is what drives us onto success and it is what will drive clients to us.
Desire is quite different from wants or needs. Our wants and needs are often ego driven. We want a new car, a nice house or other things outside of ourself. We think we need it. Real needs are the basics of life. We need air to breathe, food to eat and water. A desire comes from the heart.
A person has to desire a massage enough to make the phone call and make the appointment. They have to get fed up with where they are at in their life and want more or want something to change. They have to take responsibility for whatever issues they are experiencing – pain, stress or whatever it is= and take the step and call.
As a massage therapist building a practice, what you need is a strong enough desire to make it so. Just thinking that you want to have a practice isn’t usually enough or wanting to earn money is not usually enough. There has to be a burning desire to make a difference in your own life. It may require that things have to get bad enough and so that you can’t take it anymore and take the responsibility (the steps ) to making it happen.
Taking responsibility is just part of life and every year older I get the more I see how much responsibility it takes and how much more I need to take for myself.
I just recently read an article in Massage Magazine by Stephen Capellini on taking responsibility for your financial situation and connected it with taking control of others. He used the example of hiring other people and taking responsibility for them financially and saying that you need to take control of them too. While the financial part is one thing – yes you are responsible for paying them – taking control of them is impossible. The more you try to control, the less you will have in my view. I don’t think we can take control of anyone but ourselves. We can take control of our thoughts, actions and beliefs. It is a process of learning about yourself and becoming more conscious of yourself and actions and turning your desires into action.
Part of the problem often is people don’t know what they desire. Their desires have long ago been set aside so they can please someone else or they have been set aside because of the pain of not getting what they want. They give up their desires thinking that they can never come true. Part of taking responsibility is waking up those desires and taking control of your thoughts and learning that all of those things you have been telling yourself about not being able to get what you desire is a false belief -it is your inner critic clouding your vision, clouding your desire.
Waking up your desire requires patience, compassion and awareness of how you treat yourself when you start desiring something.
Resources for Waking Desire and Taking Responsibility
The Science of Getting Rich – Free ebook by Wallace Wattles written in 1910 which is one of the early works that has influenced the creation of the book and movie called “The Secret”. There is also a 30 day online course which I highly recommend. You can choose what you would like to pay to join.
“Wherever there is unexpressed possibility or function not performed, there is unsatisfied desire. Desire is possibility seeking expression or function seeking performance. Every desire is the effort of an unexpressed possibility to come into action. It is power seeking to manifest which causes desire.”
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