The Theory of the Drama Triangle (link to article on www.thebodyworker.com) is often taught in massage school as a part of learning to deal with clients and their drama.
The thing is that most massage therapists won’t really understand it or know what to do with it until they address it in themselves.
We are all human and sometimes ride on the drama triangle.
The main thing to remember is that to get off the drama triangle requires that you start taking responsiblity which can be one of the most painful,eyeopening things you will ever experience.
Being able to take responsibiliy requires self esteem. It doesn’t happen overnight. It is a process that we all go through.
We all have parts of the victim, rescuer and persecutor within us and they show up in various ways and at different times.
Victims will look for resucuers to save them. Clients look to us to save them. Â Rescuers put aside their own needs to take care of othes so they don’t have to look at themselves, unconsiously trying to get their own needs met through working with people who ‘need’ them.
As a victim, a massage therapist will say things like:
“There is too much competition in the massage profession. The market is just saturated.” (there is no room for me)
“It is the economy that is the cause of my not having enough clients”
The way off of the drama triangle from any angle is to take more responsiblity. Taking responsiblity is painful and challenging but one of the most important things you can do for yourself and your practice.
What is one thing you can do today to start taking more responsiblity for what you have in your life?
Resources:
Taking Responsibility by Nathaniel Branden “Who I am may be understood as a reflection of what I am willing to take responsiblity for.”
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Motivation is the key to success. I think one has to be fully motivated as well as sure of his capabilities and what he can do. Nice articles, and keep up the good work.