Hi FAM,

Please understand I am in the process of changing how people view massage vs. prostitution and to shed some light on what is happening to gay massage. My request of you is to look at what is happening to the massage industry and to help change that.

I noticed that everyone (on FAM) in the MIAMI/FORT LAUDERDALE area is FAM approved when I know for a fact most of these guys DO NOT have a license. (I can name them by name for you if you want and give you their License numbers. I have access to that.) I thought your site says FAM approved means: massage therapists who have already submitted their credentials/documents as proof of their educational background in bodywork.

Did you know, in the state of Florida (as in most states), if one receives money for physically touching someone as an occupation, they are required by law to have a license? That means doctors, nurses, hair stylists, physical therapists, MASSAGE THERAPISTS, etc. need to have a license in order to be paid. All the others are permitted to touch others for FREE or it is considered ILLEGAL!

Considering the legalities of this, I do not understand why your site would permit UNlicensed people to advertise on your site (meaning prostitutes). I am quite aware that your site and other publications allow this. People say it’s free speech. Hypothetically, would it be okay with you for pot dealers to advertise your site? After all, both selling a joint and prostitution are misdemeanors in most states? People can do what they want, right?

Again, my request of you is to look at what is happening to the massage industry and to help change that.

I get calls from gay men looking for happy endings. Why??? Because of the escorts/prostitutes who advertise right next to where my photo used to be on this very site. Why else do they call me first vs. an escort? It is more cost effective to hire me at $70-115/hr vs. the $150-350/hr an escort charges. The clients probably thinks, “Oh, I will go to the guy that says he does non-sexual massage…of course he will write that in his profile but I bet he gives great head. It’s not really prostitution if someone gives me a hand job. I only asked for a little extra with my massage.” WRONG!

I, and many others on your site did not go to massage school and spend $5000+ on an education to give a good hand job.

The point being, people are confused about the difference of the massage profession vs. being an escort/rubdown artist. The lines are blurred now because many people see licensed professional right next to those who are not… even if they have a box to check to view ONLY LIC MASSAGE PROFESSIONALS…the APPROVED ones.

What goes on behind closed doors is out of my control and none of my business. What is my business, is MASSAGE THERAPY. I have a voice to request that Escorts be taken off the site all together and allow the massage therapists to have their own site so that the lines stay clear…help me unblur the lines. The decision starts with you to make a change in this part of the world.

I would love to come back to FAM but I have a difficult time advertising on a site that allows people to advertise illegally.

I am in the process of sending a similar letter to other sites and publications.

I hope that the situation changes.