Our Beliefs Create our Feelings
I have really been doing some investigating of how our beliefs systems create what we have in our lives. It is really fascinating.
Our feelings are created by thoughts that we have that are created by our underlying and often unconscious beliefs and values.
While we need to be able to experience and have our feelings, we also need to be able to recognize when they are having us!
A feeling is having us when we are over reacting to something. Usually a feeling is just there to inform of us of our need. When we over react and create drama around that feeling we are usually projecting some deeper feeling from when we were and earlier age (2-5). The early unmet needs create false ego beliefs - beliefs such as
“I am not good enough”
“There must be something wrong with me”
“I am worthless”
“I am Unlovable”
“People will leave me if I have my feelings or if I am different from them”
These are all beliefs that were created at an early age to protect ourselves from being vulnerable.
As an adult, these beliefs still drive our feelings. Feelings inform us of the places inside of us that are wounded. We project them onto our partners, clients, friends and family. It provides us an opportunity to learn about them, feel them and heal.
The early unmet primal needs are now “driving the car” so to speak. Our neediness reflects how much we need to grieve the past and awaken our own inner nurturing.
David Ricco in his book “How to be an Adult” says “Our problem is not that as children our needs were unmet, but that as adults they are still unmourned”.
If you don’t know what your beliefs are, just look at what you have in your life! Your life reflects what you believe…
What beliefs do you have?
What feelings do you have that are created by false beliefs about yourself?
How do your beliefs keep you from being successful or hold you back?
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