The victim and the rescuer
One of the major
themes in all helping professions revolve around the idea that people need to be helped and don’t have the resources that they need inside to take care of themselves and heal.
I just read a great explanation of it in a book called “Living in the Light” by Shakti Gawain
She says:
Victim consciousness is the belief that we are helpless; that the world, people and the economy do things to us and we have no choice but to accept what is dished out to us…
As victims, people enlist rescuers to save them. Rescuers do not know how to take care of themselves, so they focus on helping others, unconsciously trying to fulfill their own needs in and indirect way. They need victims to care for. A rescuer believes that others are weak or powerless and need his help…You can’t be a rescuer, though unless you believe in and have a victim inside you…
To transform rescuing, we need to take responsibility for our own pain, and get in touch with the poser of the universe within us to help with our own healing…
The energy stays stuck as long as people are focusing on others as the problem or the solution…
Rescuers do not see how much they need help. They are so busy helping others, they cannot see their own pain. When they start to feel their own feelings, they cover them up by finding someone else to take care of…The only way to help others is to do exactly what you really want to do.
OK I could probably quote the whole chapter but what it is saying really sums up all that I have been saying and learning for myself. The clearer I get about what I desire and I do that by checking in to see what feels the best, the easier things come to me in every aspect of my life.
Resources:
www.thebodyworker.com
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