Comments on: Transference for Massage Therapists http://thebodyworker.com/massage_blog/transference-for-massage-therapists/ Explorations in the Theory and Practice of Massage and Bodywork Tue, 07 Sep 2010 02:18:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Julie Onofrio http://thebodyworker.com/massage_blog/transference-for-massage-therapists/comment-page-1/#comment-23003 Julie Onofrio Wed, 02 Jun 2010 20:14:27 +0000 http://thebodyworker.com/massage_blog/?p=6#comment-23003 The feelings that he has are real. I think that it is actually in the transference that healing occurs for both the client and the massage therapist. You can't just say stop feeling that way. I could probably say a lot more but without knowing the details (is he giving the MT your life savings! or does the MT feel like he is a son), I would say it is best to address it directly. In transference, one person has to be the 'adult'. There is transference in every relationship and it is probably what is causing the issues in your relationship with your partner. We all just want the deep unconditional love of our mother/father! Have you considered seeing a counselor/psychologist together to try to understand it all more? That's a tough one! Not meaning to offend you in any way. Julie The feelings that he has are real. I think that it is actually in the transference that healing occurs for both the client and the massage therapist. You can’t just say stop feeling that way. I could probably say a lot more but without knowing the details (is he giving the MT your life savings! or does the MT feel like he is a son), I would say it is best to address it directly. In transference, one person has to be the ‘adult’. There is transference in every relationship and it is probably what is causing the issues in your relationship with your partner. We all just want the deep unconditional love of our mother/father! Have you considered seeing a counselor/psychologist together to try to understand it all more?

That’s a tough one! Not meaning to offend you in any way.

Julie

]]> By: JosephNYC http://thebodyworker.com/massage_blog/transference-for-massage-therapists/comment-page-1/#comment-10762 JosephNYC Fri, 13 Mar 2009 17:54:13 +0000 http://thebodyworker.com/massage_blog/?p=6#comment-10762 To pat deas. You are missing the point. The article isn't saying that people go to a message therapist because they missed out on something from their youth. They are saying that transference happens unconsciously. No one intends to go to one for it to happen. I see a chiropractor regularly and it happened to me. He massages my back and I never want it to end, leave his office and I do want to follow him around. I couldn't believe how spot-on this article was. To pat deas. You are missing the point. The article isn’t saying that people go to a message therapist because they missed out on something from their youth. They are saying that transference happens unconsciously. No one intends to go to one for it to happen. I see a chiropractor regularly and it happened to me. He massages my back and I never want it to end, leave his office and I do want to follow him around. I couldn’t believe how spot-on this article was.

]]> By: Julie Onofrio http://thebodyworker.com/massage_blog/transference-for-massage-therapists/comment-page-1/#comment-5732 Julie Onofrio Thu, 09 Oct 2008 06:37:38 +0000 http://thebodyworker.com/massage_blog/?p=6#comment-5732 They don't go get a massage thinking that they missed out on something in childhood. The whole transference process it totally unconscious on the part of the client (and most people for that matter) yet it is a part of every relationship - friends, partners, family members, coworkers etc but they call it projection or drama in other relationships. They can come to idolize massage therapists just because of giving a good massage. Read some of the signs of transference in some of the articles and books mentioned that should be the core of every massage school. They don’t go get a massage thinking that they missed out on something in childhood. The whole transference process it totally unconscious on the part of the client (and most people for that matter) yet it is a part of every relationship – friends, partners, family members, coworkers etc but they call it projection or drama in other relationships.

They can come to idolize massage therapists just because of giving a good massage. Read some of the signs of transference in some of the articles and books mentioned that should be the core of every massage school.

]]> By: pat deas http://thebodyworker.com/massage_blog/transference-for-massage-therapists/comment-page-1/#comment-5721 pat deas Thu, 09 Oct 2008 00:49:05 +0000 http://thebodyworker.com/massage_blog/?p=6#comment-5721 you have gone a little overboard with your views of transference! many people come for a massage truly to relieve physical tension, not because they missed out something in childhood, then idolize the therapist because of great massages. you have gone a little overboard with your views of transference! many people come for a massage truly to relieve physical tension, not because they missed out something in childhood, then idolize the therapist because of great massages.

]]> By: Catherine Roe http://thebodyworker.com/massage_blog/transference-for-massage-therapists/comment-page-1/#comment-3394 Catherine Roe Mon, 11 Aug 2008 14:53:52 +0000 http://thebodyworker.com/massage_blog/?p=6#comment-3394 Hi Julia, What makes you blog content so special and unique are posts on subject like transference or self awareness for massage therapist - It is great to be able to develop oneself, to grow and still be practicing - Thanks for sharing your knowledge and experience through that perspective - I added your widget to my blog and would appreciate a comment on any of my post - http://www.amatouch.blogspot.com Catherine Hi Julia,

What makes you blog content so special and unique are posts on subject like transference or self awareness for massage therapist – It is great to be able to develop oneself, to grow and still be practicing – Thanks for sharing your knowledge and experience through that perspective -

I added your widget to my blog and would appreciate a comment on any of my post -
http://www.amatouch.blogspot.com

Catherine

]]> By: Rebecca Mauldin http://thebodyworker.com/massage_blog/transference-for-massage-therapists/comment-page-1/#comment-2618 Rebecca Mauldin Wed, 02 Jul 2008 04:14:09 +0000 http://thebodyworker.com/massage_blog/?p=6#comment-2618 Thanks for another great post Julia. Understanding transference is critical in understanding our client relationships. I love that you said, "Transference is what heals." I'd like to add that exploring our countertransference is where our own personal healing processes can be engaged. When we are willing to delve into our countertransference in our therapeutic relationships, we're walking through a gateway for transformation and healing ourselves. Thanks for another great post Julia. Understanding transference is critical in understanding our client relationships. I love that you said, “Transference is what heals.” I’d like to add that exploring our countertransference is where our own personal healing processes can be engaged. When we are willing to delve into our countertransference in our therapeutic relationships, we’re walking through a gateway for transformation and healing ourselves.

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